Your Anger Gauge Especially For Men

Men relate well to this anger gauge which I’ve created especially for them.  Women, you might wish to share it with the man/men in your life. Certainly feel welcome to use it for yourself.

We’ll equate your body/mind’s need for anger control with your car’s need for gasoline. Interacting with others when you’re over-stressed should be avoided as much as possible.  Compare that with trying to fill your car’s gas tank when it’s already full. That would crease a wasteful mess one way or another. 

Here’s a full-empty meter for your stress/anger level

YOUR BODY-MIND’S ANGER EMPTY-FULL METER

E.  You feel very calm (empty from stress/anger). This is an ideal time to interact.

E. You feel a bit empty of relaxation. (A bit stressed/irritated) Be aware. 

E #1. There is a sensation of being very empty of relaxation. Discomfort, anger are noted. Preferably, stop interacting here and use *Appropriate Action Tools, as below. 

It is advised to avoid entering the following Danger Zone levels.

E #2.  You now feel very distressed and angry. You feel if one more thing is required of you, you will explode. Your tank is near the filled point.

E #3. Your tank is now overflowing. You cannot stop it.  You explode at whoever is present. Your anger is either not applicable or very excessive to the situation.
 
E #4. You have hurt/angered somebody who does not deserve it or where this is to your detriment and that of everyone involved.

E #5. You’re now experiencing severe guilt, anger and blows to your self esteem, followed later by devising ways to do damage control for the harm that was done.

Please read the above sentence again, and then go back to E#1 above. You’ll see that it was far easier and better for all concerned to have taken appropriate action at that point in the gauge, so that your tank didn’t overflow. 

APPROPRIATE ACTION TOOLS (Choose from one or more)

1. Around the clock body relaxation (consciously relax your arms, legs, chest, and abdomen, eyes, and the like, followed by conscious breathing (slowly breathe in through the nose for count of 6, hold for 5, breath out of the nose for 6. Repeat until relaxation occurs).

2. Engage in some physical activity of choice (wood cutting, punching bag, physical exercise, walk, run or gym).

3. When at point E#1, share with anyone involved that you must have alone time now, and will get back to them once you regroup, either later, the next day or whenever possible. Speak firmly and directly, while politely. Be assertive, not aggressive.

I sincerely hope this helps you toward more harmonious relationships.