Lauren Zitowsky is a Certified Teen Life Coach. In her practice at Teen Life Coach Inc., she arms your teens with the tools needed to overcome issues such as bullying, body image, divorce, school, relationships, heartache and peer pressure. Lauren can be reached at teenlifecoachlauren@gmail.com |
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Life is rough. In one moment we are living, loving and laughing. In the very next moment an unexpected and unwanted problem may have arisen. In a blink of an eye, our sugary sweet world has become polluted with looming darkness. During this time of turmoil we may get nervous, anxious and depressed. The message we begin to beat into our head becomes. Why me? What did I do to deserve this? These negative thoughts have become the soundtrack of our life. Have you ever noticed that during these trying times, you may begin to eat a little more, beat yourself up a little more and close yourself off a little more. Injustice has been brought upon you and instead of working harder, faster and smarter to solve this situation you lose hope. By losing hope you are simply saying I am not worthy of being happy so why bother. I am sure your family and friends will understand. I think not. How do we find the courage to move forward. It's as simple as understanding that the situation you are in is temporary only if you want it to be. However, if you give up on yourself the pain will last forever. Have you noticed that when you are upset in one area of your life, all the other areas begin to fall apart as well. This isn’t a coincidence by any means. What is happening is you are subconsciously sabotaging ourselves. If you are filled with overwhelming sadness how can you be happy? The answer is you can’t. You are not allowing space for it. When you feel sad you exude negativity. We have all heard the phrase what you give is what you get. It makes sense then that if we are giving off negative vibes we are attracting them back into our lives. What a destructive cycle. The good news is, if you can allow yourself to feel sadness you can certainly allow yourself to feel happiness. You just have to choose it. Now, don’t get me wrong moving forward can be scary. However nothing is scarier than being unhappy. Waking up everyday blaming yourself, hiding from the world while filling your head and your heart with negative thoughts is not only draining it’s destructive. We are all faced with challenges in life. It is up to us to decide who we want to be during and after the dust settles. After all the dust will settle. Decide now that you will be the source of inspiration for not only yourself but for those around you. You have the power. Now use it. |