Dr. Gold, Ph.D, LMHC, is a Licensed and Board Certified Clinical Mental Health counselor, with a Ph.D in psychology, clinical practice. She’s in private practice at her home office in Fort Salonga, specializing in relationships. A sub specialty is in integrating holistic methods with traditional ones. She is founding president of Happi Act for autism www.happiact.org a non- profit organization. She can be reached at drgold6@optimum.net |
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Thanksgiving. Giving Gratitude for Our Spouse or “Favorable Life Partner.” (If there is no such person in your life presently, try applying these tips to another meaningful person, such as a relative or dear friend.) During my marriage to Paul, I of course referred to him as “my husband.” After he passed-on, when I began seeing Steven, he needed a different designation. I don’t like “Significant Other” whereas introducing my then 49 year old man as “my boyfriend” sounded silly. One of my spiritual mentors suggests “Favorable Life Partner” (FLP) which I like, so I adopted that for Steve. You might like to use it also if applicable. (Steven and I married in 2015, thus he too became “husband.” Still, we strive to remain mutually favorable life partners as well). Dr. Greg Smalley tells how to give gratitude. EXPRESS THANKS EXPRESS AFFIRMATION CHERISH Finally, remember in a past column that I suggested not blowing difficulties out of proportion, and presented the 20%-80% rule. That in the best of relationships 20% is difficult and $80% easy. Don’t necessarily write off your relationship because it’s difficult at times. Difficulties are an opportunity to grow. |