For Some, It Is Better To Be “Right,” Than Happy

“One day of admission forgives six days of contempt.” 

Of all things big and small, the most delicate is the ego itself. The desire to be right often trumps the humility to admit wrong. Some people often forego logic, reason, and rationale in exchange for winning the day. It is a most unattractive quality in a person and quite frankly, the ugliest.  

The lack of accepting the responsibility for one’s conduct, at the moment of levied accusation, begins the journey of contempt. If the accuser’s argument is valid, this person loses a modicum of confidence and belief in the accused; who will not entertain reason. Such denial also calls character and judgment into question.  
  
Nothing is more frustrating then knowing that your argument has strength, merit and reason, and the accused is dismissing these assertions for the simple sake of “being right.”  This failure of the accused to surrender his or her personal position for fear of seeming unsure of him/herself promotes disharmony in what is otherwise a healthy relationship.  

“History is always ready to accept your reframing of events to make your story sound believable.  But, it still doesn’t make it true.”
Some have an uncanny ability to rewrite a story arc and event timeline in order to tell a story more favorable to their position. One’s reconstituted perception never makes the facts true, nor does it lend itself to a better argument. In actuality, it tells those of us that are willing to live in truth, that your perception of the events are more congruent to your insecurities, and less about reality.  

It is ALWAYS better to accept fault when “the cards are stacked against you.” It will make for an argument that will consume only one day and allow the winds of peace to begin blowing soon thereafter. However, failing to accept fault in yourself, especially when another’s argument for fault against you is valid, will set up a windstorm of contemptuous feelings that will reside below the surface of the skin of your accuser.

Therefore, in order to be happy, take responsibility, be honorable and accept when you are wrong. It makes life much less complicated.