Accept What IS, Change What Can BE!

The art of coaching others through life is artfully facilitated through the combination of wisdom, integrity, experience, education and a profound grasp of moral and ethical principle. In my (unannounced role and experience in this field,) I have guided many to improve not only their fitness and wellness, but also their overall quality of life. How?

Easy: Simply by teaching people to accept what “is” and change that which can be changed. Many times, our dissonance (or disharmony) for our reality clashes with truth. Meaning, we like to see the world through our own wrongfully sketched version of reality because personal pride, ego, or arrogance denies our abilities to accept personal responsibility for what is.   

Often times, I have seen this through the behaviors of drug users. People who use drugs – like anabolic steroids, controlled substances, alcohol, or other illicit drugs – are reconstituting reality to better fit a poor perception of body image. Steroid users cannot accept whom stares back from the mirror and this disdain for the self drives this person to harmfully change what they see. As opposed to accepting what “is,” these persons choose harmful means to “cheat” reality and try to fit themselves into a new suit of being.  

Ultimately, a person whom denies the reality of what is will never find a world of happiness but rather delay the onset of depression for a later date. Some things in this world cannot be changed. Therefore, we must accept certain denominators. However, that which we can control, we do! We CAN change our job.  We CAN repair (certain) relationships. We CAN pursue happiness. However, there is one caveat:

We MUST be WILLING to do so and exact means that do not hurt others OR the self. There are ALWAYS choices to engage and ways in which we can pursue our happiness without compromise to our health, wellness, emotional disposition or the lives and dispositions of others.  

You must possess the will to change situations that are detracting from your happiness. I can tell you through many difficult hardships, choices, challenges, obstacles and high hurdles that I have climbed over across 20 years of my business experience; there is ALWAYS a way!