Man Cave

Question:
    What is a “man cave” and how do I make one as a surprise for my husband for his birthday?

Answer:
    Please don’t think that a “man cave” should look like it sounds!  It’s not a dark hole filled with “guy stuff” where he can hibernate.  Well, at least it should not look like a dark hole.  I can best describe it as the modern version of a 1950’s, “Father Knows Best”, dad retiring to his own den wearing a smoking jacket with his pipe and slippers. (Did anyone actually do that?)  Today, it’s really a place where he can go to escape the daily responsibilities of work and family – read, watch TV and be surrounded by the things he loves that help nurture and recharge him.  It doesn’t have to be large.  A spare bedroom or small place in the attic or basement can become this retreat.  It should start with a really comfortable chair (not necessarily one you would like) and a door he can close to shut out the rest of the world for a little while.  If he’s a fisherman or other sports enthusiast, this is the room where his collectibles should go, artfully placed and hung for his viewing enjoyment.  He may not want a desk, but certainly create a space for his laptop or computer.  You might also find a wall unit that incorporates storage and shelving for family pictures and his favorite books.  A cozy area rug can add a warm inviting feeling, as well.  Larger man cave areas can accommodate a bar, card or billiard table, a video game area and even a wine room which can be shared with friends and family.
    The most important thing is that you have recognized that your husband needs a get-a-way in his own home whether for fun or relaxation.  If space is lacking, perhaps the guest bedroom for company that comes infrequently is a location you can redesign to do double duty.  A sleeper sofa can free up space for his chair and if your company doesn’t root for the team on the wall, so be it.  Making good use of any space to show how much he’s loved and valued is the best birthday present.
    There are also many man cave gifts that you can order on line which will be personalized for him such as mugs, desk organizers, clocks, plaques, photos, family history memorabilia, etc.  If you’ve got a bigger budget and he loves the feel of brick or wood paneled walls, call in the contractor if there’s time before his birthday.
    And – would you believe, there is a man cave web site called mancavesite.org and they sponsor an annual contest for the best man cave?  They even publish a cave dweller magazine.  You can sign him up to be a member of this auspicious group, but I warn you, we both might be creating a monster!  Well back to the cave – and wish him a Happy Birthday from me.

(Photo Above) This ultimate billiard room/library complete with mahogany walls, coffered ceiling and library ladder is a perfect "man cave" for the billiard enthusiast.